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I'm a writer, a bartender, and a standup comedian, and you are welcome to push any of these buttons.

A Trigger Proof Person is someone who doesn’t get “triggered” (or made crazy) by the idiotic, offensive, or down-right-wrong comments made by others. 

We all have people who make us crazy. People who push our buttons, no matter how hard we try to ignore them. I can't even count the number of books I've read on toxic relationships or toxic workplaces that I've wanted to share with other people. Unfortunately, those people never seem to read them. 

I've also spent over ten thousand hours bartending, and I realized that when I was behind the bar I was trigger-proof. From the quirky dive bar on NYC’s Upper East Side (way up, beyond the Nanny Diaries…this was where the doormen went to drink until they forgot having lived those Nanny Diary stories) to Chef Nobu’s showpiece for the rich and famous in Aspen, Colorado, I waited on Republican, Democrat, rich, poor, black, white, any gender, beyond gender, and no matter what crazy things they said to me, it rolled off my back. 

So I set about figuring out what was different when I was behind the bar. Certainly planks of wood with taps running through them can't have magical powers, can they? With all the craziness going on in our world today, couldn’t we all benefit from a few trigger-proofing tricks to take out into the "real world"?

So let down your hair, pour yourself a glass of wine, and check out my blog for loving, judgment-free, straight-talk, advice from a bartender on how to turn off your buttons so they can no longer be pushed.


It’s cheaper than therapy and the hangover isn't half as bad as the one that comes from a night of CarBombs. 

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